Elizabeth A. (Alder) Allen


Elizabeth A. “Betty” Allen, 85, of Oneida, passed away Friday, October 29, 2021, after a brief hospital stay. Betty was a victim of COVID, despite being fully vaccinated and taking every safety precaution.

She was born in Oneida on March 12, 1936, the daughter of Donald J. and Reba Stewart Alder.

She grew up in Oneida Castle and told lively stories of the escapades of growing up in a big family, including with three mischievous brothers.

She married Kenneth Allen, the love of her life, on April 23, 1960, and they were devoted partners for 61 years. Family was the center of Betty’s life. She was a loving wife, a warm and affectionate mother, devoted grandmother and great grandmother, a caring sister and an involved aunt to her many nieces and nephews. She loved completely, unselfishly, and faithfully.

An alumna of St. Patrick’s School in Oneida and Oneida Senior High School, Betty formed loyal friendships that she enjoyed until her passing. Her “lunch with the girls” was an event around which other activities were scheduled. She helped organize reunions for the Class of 1954, right up to the 65th in 2019. Her daughters also attended St. Patrick’s School, giving Betty the opportunity to be a room mother, lunch lady, bingo worker, and Mother’s Club member.

Even before graduating from high school, Betty began her professional life working in the office at Oneida City Hospital. She soon moved on to become secretary to the principal at Oneida Senior High School, where she did everything from typing report cards to supervising students in detention. The arrival of her first child shifted her focus from outside work to home and family. Her daughters remember their mother as the loving center of their home and their lives. Once her children were all in school, Betty returned to work at Oneida City Hospital in the Medical Records Department, where she met Dr. Carmine Mastrolia. Betty later became office manager for the doctor, where she worked for 19 years until her retirement in 2001. In retirement, she could be found working at the polls every Election Day, usually in Ward 1, and volunteering at the hospital. Every winter she and Ken enjoyed a month in St. Augustine Beach, Florida, where outlet shopping for the grandchildren was a favorite pastime when it was too rainy to walk the beach.

In addition to her family life and professional responsibilities, Betty was a member of Catholic Daughters Court Our Lady #1250, St. Patrick’s Altar Rosary Society, and Oneida Area Zonta Club. She was a lifelong member of St. Patrick Church and also volunteered for years in the parish office. She was a devout Catholic who was a spiritual role model to those who loved her.

She leaves to cherish her memory her loving husband, Kenneth; her children, Barbara, of Oneida, Susan (Ken) Spink, of Endwell, New York, Donna (Roger) Moreland, of Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, Judith (Frank) Mangiacapra, of Vestal, New York, and Mary (Craig) Anderson, of Middletown, Delaware; her grandchildren, Megan Moreland, Matthew (Catlin Gesford) Moreland, Anthony and Joseph Mangiacapra, and Davis and Grady Anderson; her great-grandchildren, Bramley and Paisley Moreland, her sisters-in-law, Betty Curro, and Marjorie Alder; in addition to many dear nieces and nephews. Betty was predeceased by her parents and her siblings, Donald and wife Mary, Robert (Stewart) and wife Sonia, Mary A. Frost and husband Jacque, and Richard.

Betty’s family would like to extend sincere thanks to Dr. James Vanderhoof and the staff of Oneida Health Hospital for the compassionate care she received in her last days.

Betty’s Mass of Christian Burial will be held on Saturday, December 18, 2021, at 10:30 a.m. at St. Patrick Church, 347 Main St., Oneida, with the Rev. Christopher Ballard and Rev. Richard Kapral co-officiating. Interment will take place in St. Helena’s Cemetery in Oneida. Family and friends are invited and may call on Friday, December 17, 2021, from 4 to 7 p.m. at the Ironside Funeral Home, Inc., 342 Main St, Oneida. The family respectfully asks that you wear a mask regardless of vaccination status. Memorial contributions may be made in Betty’s memory to St. Patrick’s School or St. Patrick Church. Arrangements have been entrusted to Ironside Funeral Home, Inc., 342 Main St., Oneida. You may view the obituary and send a message of sympathy at www.ironsidefuneralhome.com